Day in the Life of a Pregnant Lady

This is the truth of being 22 weeks pregnant, no filter!

Panties no longer fit, so commando it is till this baby decided to come out!

Boobs leak and get engorged… blessing and a curse. Means I will have no issue with my  milk coming in but is also incredibly annoying and painful

I waddle…yes like a duck. My husband says its cute but it definitely works your butt and thigh muscles!

We have officially decided that once my maternity leave is up I will become a stay at home mom and not return to work. Instead I will be going back to school full time.

119 days until my maternity leave is scheduled to begin!

I have a low lying placenta, I am terrified I will have to have a c-section. We wanted a home birth but the home birth midwife’s due date is the day after mine so I had to settle for a hospital birth now I can;t bear the thought of a c-section!

20 Week Bump

Baby update:

Name: Elena Antoinette Gautreaux

Currently 21 weeks 2 days!

10.5in long

Approx weight 1lb

I kick mommy a lot!! All day long!

I love loud music and when mommy dances it’s the only way I’ll stop kicking so hard.

I have been head down and as low as I can be since I was conceived.

Mommy update:

Weight gain: 6lbs to date

Complications: low lying placenta, Already in full blown lactation mode!

No cravings! I love fresh fruit and fresh veggies though.

Summer pregnancy is rough y’all! I have to wear a black business suit and stand for 8hrs a day. Let me tell you… not fun!

Colbert has been absolutely amazing through my whole pregnancy, constant foot rubs, massages, encouragement, surprise treats and suggested naps when he knows I need one etc.

Its a Food Baby… Just Kidding

I have not posted anything since January, that is due to the fact we found out we are expecting a little bundle of joy in October. We did not tell the family until last week after we made sure we were in the clear of any issues that could possibly arise. So to not risk spilling the beans to the internet, I have stayed away! So here is an update

 

Baby Gautreaux:

Current Size: 2.9in so about the size of a peach

Age: 13 weeks 4 days

Heart Rate: 168bpm at (11 weeks 4 days)

Due Date: Oct. 21st

Gender: ??

Momma:

Midwife: Robin Higgins at Richmond Women’s health, she is absolutely wonderful so far

Complaints: Already having to buy maternity clothes (yes,cute baby bump pic to come), lower back pain, inability to handle the heat, many many bathroom trips

Morning Sickness: Only lasted during week 7

Severe Acne: None, skin is actually impoving

Medical Issues: Absolutely none so far.

Favorite Snacks: Fresh Fruit, Fresh Veggies with ranch, yogurt and sour patch kids

 

My plan is for this pregnancy and birth to be 100% natural, no inductions, no c-section, no medications what so ever. I would prefer to have baby gautreaux at home but in Central KY it is very difficult to find a home birth midwife.

 

 

 

Budgets are the Devil

 

How many of us have created a budget and failed miserably to stick to it? I know I have!

I did away with our budget, it is the devil! It does nothing but make you feel like a failure!

Here is how our finances work:

The husband and I both make around about the same amount give or take a few thousand a year.

Monthly:

Husband: Rent

Myself: Electric (which we cut in half by not using our central heat and using space heaters), water, Internet, and groceries.

It may seem like I am paying more but really the total amount is about equal.

As you can see, we know what we are going to pay but its not on paper. It is not labeled a budget. We decided what to do with the extra money left over. I might deposit mine into my 401k and he might do early christmas shopping or vice versa. We DO NOT have rules on what we are allowed to do with the extra left over after bills.

If we budgeted every dollar we would fail and become discouraged. By not budgeting, as long as the bills are getting paid it is an accomplishment and we are staying on track. There is no failure or discouragement because we have met our goal for the month.

Bye Bye 2016

2016…. it was well eventful in good and bad ways. It started wonderful

I married my best friend (great)

Both got new jobs (great)

Got re-accepted to college (great)

Totaled my car (bad)

Financial struggle (bad)

2017…. you are going to be amazing. I didn’t make a resolution because I never keep them. Frankly I forgot what my 2016 one was.

In 2017…

Our 1 year anniversary

Our first family vacation

Nathan turns 16!

I go back to school!

I vow to get away from financial struggle.

Wish I Could Work At a Vet Hospital

I wish I could afford to work at a vet hospital while pursuing my pre vet….but the hours and pay are terrible for vet techs. I left my job as a vet tech to take a job at a hotel because of the amazing pay and benefits. I was working third shift for little to nothing, I couldn’t support my family.

It would be amazing it the vet industry got a boost.

Christmas Eve…Self Care

Today is Christmas Eve….I am at work until 3pm…..my thoughts? Oh well, lets make some money. There is no reason for me to be upset about having to work today, we don’t get my youngest till this evening late anyway.

Self Care is my plan for the day.  I decided this when I arrived at work after being a nervous wreck on the interstate (pouring the rain, new rental car). I was panicky, and tense by 7am….whats wrong with me? I am alive and it is Christmas Eve, I should be thankful.

My plan for today:

  • Listen to Beach Vibes radio on Spotify
  • Leave work about 3pm
  • Swing by the Dollar Tree and find the last stocking stuffers I need for the husband
  • Tidy up the house
  • Wrap Presents
  • Take a bubble bath and have a glass of wine
  • Attend Christmas Eve high mass
  • Pick up my youngest

Yesterday my husband told me, he felt distant because of how tense we had both been…. I want this to change. Christmas should not be a tense time for couples but for your average every day couple it is. We are all struggling. We must all remember you cannot pour from an empty cup.

If anybody is like me, I do not know how to relax. My mind does not stop. This ends today.

I will take time to myself. I will relax and let the things that are out of my control be. I do not want to be tense on Christmas day. I will take time to take care of myself this evening and finish up last minute things while dancing around the house with my husband and son.

Well Here We Are

Well here we are. It has been 9 days since my last blog post. I do apologize, there has been a lot going on and stress levels are high.

It has been interesting only having one car. We are making progress with our claim though and got a rental car 2 days ago.

Mom #1 is also causing some issues with my oldest. There is some emotional baggage and mental issues that she is projecting on him. She has told him that she wants nothing to do with him and that my husband and I are bad influences. This is causing him a great deal of distress, is causing him to be distracted in school and caused him to loose his girlfriend. Keep in mind he has lived with us for the past 7-8 years with minimal contact with her.

I was selected for verification through EKU, so now I am fighting to get tax transcripts in and submitted in time. Most of the classes I need to take are full so I am still struggling to get into the correct classes. This is becoming a long drawn out process but the end result will be worth it.

Well that’s an update on life as of right now.

 

P.S 4 days to Christmas and the shopping still isn’t done!

Christmas Panic

12 days until Christmas. Most people are excited. I am in shear panic. We are not financially struggling for essentials, rent, food, utilities etc. Christmas always puts us in a panic. The kids are at the age of everything they want is over $40, we normally do not have the extra money saved up. This year everything was going great, until my car got totaled an we had to use christmas money to get our other car running.

We have bough 5 presents total since September. Our next pay day is December 22nd. Thankfully this paycheck will have no bills coming out. Just presents.

 

Even though christmas is not about gifts, I still believe the kids need something to open.